In latest months, I’ve discovered myself craving one thing deeper—a way of inside peace that feels regular, like a quiet confidence in who I’m and the way I transfer via the world. I needed to belief that how I present up is sufficient, not only for others, however for myself. It was throughout this private reckoning that I met Elle Pugh, a Licensed Enneagram Facilitator and Coach, at our annual Camille Kinds editors’ summit. Working together with her introduced a stunning readability, connecting me to a path of development I hadn’t anticipated. Elle’s method to private growth—rooted within the Enneagram—felt like an invite to unravel outdated patterns and uncover a extra expansive means of being.
The expertise was transformative, illuminating locations in my life the place I used to be holding on too tightly and providing permission to launch what not served me. The Enneagram grew to become greater than a character framework; it grew to become a mirror, reflecting each my strengths and blind spots. I knew I needed to go deeper—not just for myself however to share this knowledge with others. There’s a profound energy in understanding how we function at our core, and I noticed the potential for this software to encourage more healthy, extra significant relationships, each personally and professionally.
Featured picture from our interview with Riley Blanks Reid by Jenn Rose Smith.
What’s the Enneagram? An Knowledgeable Dives Deep
To discover the complete depth of the Enneagram’s potential, I sat down with Elle to uncover how this framework can assist folks join extra authentically. We mentioned the methods our Enneagram kind—primarily the construction of our ego—shapes how we view the world and work together with others. With Elle’s steerage, we delved into how this consciousness can unlock a brand new stage of empathy, not solely serving to us nurture more healthy dynamics with the folks round us but in addition providing a roadmap for private development. I hope this dialog sparks the identical curiosity for you because it did for me.
Elle Pugh
Elle Pugh is a Licensed Enneagram Facilitator and Coach, Registered Nurse, and entrepreneur devoted to holistic wellness and private development. Elle is dedicated to serving to people and organizations perceive themselves to allow them to discover therapeutic and renewed reference to each other.
How can understanding your Enneagram kind assist enhance relationships, each personally and professionally?
Your Enneagram kind is equal to your ego. All of us develop an ego in early childhood to assist us survive. The Enneagram describes 9 several types of ego we see in people. Every one is related to sure default beliefs about the way in which the world works and behaviors one of these ego developed as a means of making safety, gaining esteem and feeling in management. However with every ego, there are unconscious patterns that maintain us from thriving referred to as blind spots.
Understanding your Enneagram kind is like holding a mirror as much as your self—you’re lastly capable of perceive why you do what you do, really feel what you’re feeling, and assume what you assume.
When you’ve got that stage of self-awareness, it’s simpler to grasp the way you present up in relationships, each personally and professionally. You may determine patterns of communication and habits that both strengthen or pressure your connections. It additionally helps you empathize with others by recognizing that they see the world via a distinct lens by studying in regards to the different Enneagram sorts.
How do completely different Enneagram sorts work together?
Skilled relationships: An Enneagram Kind 1 values construction and excessive morality. In knowledgeable setting, they may excel at creating order and making certain excessive requirements, however they will additionally come throughout as vital or overly perfectionistic. If an Enneagram Kind 1 is working with an Enneagram Kind 7, who loves spontaneity and selection, stress would possibly come up when the Kind 7 feels stifled by the Kind 1’s deal with guidelines and rigidity. But when each sorts perceive one another, the Kind 1 can recognize the vitality and artistic concepts of the Kind 7, whereas the Kind 7 can see the worth within the Kind 1’s self-discipline and reliability. As a substitute of clashing, they will complement one another.
Private relationships: An Enneagram Kind 2 discovered they have to help and nurture their family members to get their wants met, however oftentimes they do that to the purpose of neglecting their very own wants. In the event that they’re in a relationship with an Enneagram Kind 5, who values independence and desires plenty of privateness, there could be a disconnect if the Kind 2 feels rejected and the Kind 5 feels overwhelmed by an excessive amount of consideration. By understanding their sorts, the Kind 2 can be taught to present the Kind 5 area with out feeling unappreciated, and the Kind 5 can acknowledge the Kind 2’s want for connection and provide reassurance in their very own means.
In the end, understanding your Enneagram kind provides you a roadmap for development. Methods to navigate your strengths and challenges, and methods to meet others the place they’re, whether or not it’s collaborating on a mission at work or constructing deeper intimacy in your private life. When each events are self-aware, it opens up an area for extra sincere, compassionate, and efficient communication.
What are some sensible steps somebody can take after discovering their kind to start this journey of development?
Understanding your Enneagram kind goes past taking a check—it’s about deeply exploring who you might be and the way you’ve all the time operated. Listed here are six steps I all the time recommend folks take. By following these steps, you’ll uncover the patterns that form your habits and discover ways to use that consciousness to develop in each your private {and professional} life.
1. Study All 9 Varieties
Should you took a web based check to find your Enneagram kind, that’s an incredible begin! However don’t cease there. Use it as an entry level. Learn up on all 9 sorts, particularly the highest three out of your check, and ask *why* you act the way in which you do.
Self-observation is essential.
2. You’re Solely One Kind
You would possibly really feel related to a number of sorts, however you’ve all the time had one dominant kind. To seek out it, take into consideration who you’ve been since your late teenagers—particularly when drained or confused. These automated behaviors reveal your true kind, even when you’ve discovered to handle them over time.
3. Discover the 27 Subtypes
Sure, there’s extra! Every kind has three subtypes (self-preservation, social, or one-on-one), and understanding yours is vital. Subtypes assist make clear your dominant kind. Dig deeper—it’s value it. Take a look at my weblog for extra on this.
4. See Your Kind because the Masks You Put on
Your Enneagram kind is equal to your ego. It’s a masks you discovered to put on to maintain you protected and comfy. For that reason, our Kind reveals to us who we’re not. Our work is to take off the masks so we are able to get well our entire, genuine self beneath.
5. Apply Self-Statement
The Enneagram invitations curiosity. Begin observing your habits. Once you deliver consciousness to your unconscious patterns, you get up and cease sleepwalking via life. That is the place change begins.
6. Ask If Your Character Is Holding You Again
When you begin observing, ask: Why did I develop this habits? How is it holding me again or hurting others? What might I acquire by letting it go? These questions enable you transfer from consciousness to transformation.
For extra particulars on these steps, you’ll be able to obtain my free “I Know My Type, Now What?” information.
What recommendation would you give to somebody who’s struggling to pinpoint their core kind? How ought to they method this uncertainty?
That is fully to be anticipated as a result of the entire map—all 9 factors—represents who we’re in our wholeness. Once we had been younger, we had free-flowing entry to all 9 factors. Over time, in early childhood, as we developed our ego, we misplaced contact with the entire different eight factors. Nonetheless, you might relate to tendencies of a number of sorts. It’s vital to know that’s to be anticipated.
Many varieties look the identical on the floor. For instance, some sorts are extra liable to people-pleasing whereas different sorts are truth-tellers, some are extra optimistic and others much less so. However every kind’s motivations for why they present up the way in which they do may be very completely different.
As I discussed above, to make use of the Enneagram framework for deep transformation, it is very important decide your one dominant kind. You may try my assets web page that can assist you decide your core kind or schedule an professional typing interview with me to find your kind.
The Enneagram is typically criticized for being overly complicated. What would you say to somebody hesitant to discover the Enneagram for these causes?
That’s what makes it so lovely. It’s not a celebration trick or a fast repair to your issues. The Enneagram is a sacred framework you can research for the remainder of your life.
In Western tradition, our consideration spans have almost disappeared—stopping us from with the ability to pause and mirror. It is a results of our habit to fixed stimulation. The Enneagram is a software that can assist you decelerate, make area for reflection, and get clear on who you might be so you’ll be able to reside a deeply related and significant life.
It does have many layers and understanding methods to method the Enneagram could be a bit overwhelming. That’s why I developed my 9-Week From Ego to Essence Teaching Program to information you thru the foundational ideas of the Enneagram.
