DEAR MISS MANNERS: We visited a buddy and her new accomplice for a weekend go to. Her accomplice drove us to an outing about 20 miles away and went 95 mph on the freeway. Regardless of fearing for our lives, we mentioned nothing. On the best way again, nonetheless, I politely requested the accomplice if he might please maintain his velocity underneath 80 mph.
He instantly turned indignant, acquired out of the automobile and instructed me I ought to drive and that he would sit within the again with my spouse. I instructed him I might not drive and to only please obey the velocity limits.
After a heated trade, he coldly acquired again within the automobile, drove extra slowly, and by no means mentioned one other phrase for the remainder of the journey. It was very uncomfortable. Was I proper to talk up?
GENTLE READER: If an affordable particular person would really feel that the choice to talking up would have been to be discovered useless by the aspect of the highway when the native constabulary made their rounds Monday morning, then this isn’t an etiquette query.
The etiquette query is: What to do after everybody acquired again within the automobile? Miss Manners’ reply is: Play dumb. After sufficient time has handed to permit everybody to recuperate their bearings, resume as regular an interplay along with your buddy as you possibly can muster — talking about different issues for the remainder of the weekend.
It gained’t idiot anybody, however it’s a must to move the time a way, you aren’t prone to settle for a second invitation, and it’s higher than enjoying useless.
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