Whitney Leavitt and her husband have had infidelity points — even past the MomTok scandal.
To this point, evidently every member of the solid of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives has some twist or hook.
On this case, her husband, Conner, was on Tinder.
To his credit score, Whitney’s husband has admitted to it. He’s additionally opened up about childhood trauma. Nevertheless it’s his claims of an “addiction” which may not sit properly with The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives viewers.
Whitney Leavitt’s husband, Conner, was on Tinder
Truthful warning: the dialogue of Whitney Leavitt’s husband’s Tinder scandal delves into severe, upsetting subjects together with sexual assault and baby abuse.
So, as you possibly can see detailed within the TikTok video under, Whitney and Conner had their very own scandal alongside the broader Mormon MomTok drama of Taylor Frankie Paul and others.
Conner was on Tinder. Whereas he has insisted that he was not in search of an affair (which many on social media doubt), he did admit to utilizing the dating-and-hookup app.
In a really somber, nearly 7-minute video, Whitney Leavitt and husband Conner delved into his Tinder scandal.
Conner explains that he did have a profile on Tinder, however emphasised that “it really stemmed from an addiction.”
It feels like Whitney’s husband is alleging that he has a “porn addiction.” As we have now beforehand detailed, this fictitious situation just isn’t acknowledged by the broader psychiatric neighborhood. Nonetheless, whereas “porn addiction” is commonly a fringe right-wing speaking level that has been broadly debunked, something can grow to be a self-destructive behavior.
Why was Whitney Leavitt’s husband on Tinder?
The extra essential challenge was why, if he was allegedly feeding an “addiction” and never in search of a hookup, Conner was utilizing a courting app in any respect. Not the motive — however the root trigger.
A tearful Conner opened up about how he had discovered from his therapist that compulsively in search of out sexual materials in a self-destructive method just isn’t unusual in childhood sexual abuse (CSA) survivors.
That is when he revealed that he was a sufferer of sexual assault when he was solely 5 years outdated. Conner expressed that he regretted not having instructed his spouse lengthy earlier than this.
Although folks wish to say that “children are resilient,” kids even have fewer coping mechanisms for trauma than adults. Sexual assault is a horrific crime at any age. Nonetheless, a 5-year-old will nearly inevitably reply in another way than an grownup. It turns into a formative trauma.
This can be very regular for folks to search out varied coping mechanisms to course of trauma all through their lives. Typically, they take the type of easy behaviors like meals, train, and intercourse. They’ll take the type of (precise) addictions like alcohol, nicotine, opiates, and extra. Lengthy-term processing of trauma may manifest as self-destructive behaviors (corresponding to, for instance, making a Tinder profile while you’re a fortunately married man).
We’re, after all, devastated for what Whitney Leavitt’s husband suffered. One can solely hope that he has been in a position to course of the evil that he skilled by way of counseling. In that method, maybe the Tinder scandal was precisely the wake-up name that he wanted.
